2. Increase feelings of security and certainty:

2. Increase feelings of security and certainty: Both children and adults need the feelings of security, certainly, consistency, and predictability, especially in times of stress. As much as possible keep good routines in tact without ‘running faster than you have strength’ (D&C 10:4). Attend church, hold family prayer and home evening, have fun and play, keep wholesome traditions alive. Eat together at regular times. Maintain consistent routines, such as story, play, and bed times. There is security in consistency.

D& C 88: 124 Cease to be idle; cease to be unclean; cease to find fault one with another; cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated.


D & C 88:119 Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing; and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God;

D & C 109:8  Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing, and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God;

D & C 132:8  Behold, mine house is a house of order, saith the Lord God, and not a house of confusion.

D & C 90:18 Set in order your houses; keep slothfulness and uncleanness far from you.

I find it telling how many times the same or almost the same counsel is repeated. I expect there is a loving reason.

It has been well known for many years, decades really, that individuals who have more firm attachments are better able to withstand the buffetings of stress. This knowledge comes in part from the resiliency research beginning in the 1950’s (see psychological resilience: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_resilience &  &  resilience: http://www.centreforconfidence.co.uk/pp/overview.php?p=c2lkPTU= 
& RESILIENCY:RESOURCES AND ASSETS http://www.collaboration.me.uk/RESOURCES_AND_ASSETS.php)   and from research around treatment and healing from sexual abuse.

For example: Girls who are sexually abused by someone other than their father; but who have a loving, supportive, and strong attachment with their fathers have a tendency for better outcomes and healing than girls who are abused by their father or by another and have a poor or unhealthy attachment with their fathers. While it is possible for all to recover, those with stronger attachments with their fathers (or in some cases with a father figure) and who were not abused by this person have a tendency to do better.  (see: Application of attachment theory to the study of sexual abuse. http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/ccp/60/2/185/ ,
Adolescent survivors of childhood sexual abuse: the mediating role of attachment style and coping in psychological and interpersonal functioning.  http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S014521349900085X,
Contextualizing the effects of childhood sexual abuse on adult self- and social functioning: an attachment theory perspective.  http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0145213499000812,
Childhood Sexual and Physical Abuse and Adult Vulnerability to PTSD: The Mediating Effects of Attachment and Dissociation.  http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/2004-18718-002 )

While the following article could have been linked from other headings as well as this one I am recommending it to you here because of the security and consistency provided by a good ward family, the gospel of Jesus Christ and the Savior Himself.

June 2011 Ensign, p10, He Carried My Sorrows
http://lds.org/ensign/2011/06/he-carried-my-sorrows?lang=eng

Please also read:
A Heritage of Righteous Traditions
http://lds.org/manual/young-women-manual-2/lesson-18-a-heritage-of-righteous-traditions?lang=eng&query=traditions
Righteous Traditions
http://lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/righteous-traditions?lang=eng&query=traditions
Cultivate Righteous Traditions
http://lds.org/general-conference/2000/10/cultivate-righteous-traditions?lang=eng&query=traditions
Traditions Worth Keeping “Family traditions are like spiritual and emotional cement in the foundation of a happy home. They create fond memories, and these memories bond us together as nothing else can.”
http://lds.org/ensign/1986/03/traditions-worth-keeping?lang=eng&query=Traditions+Worth+Keeping

Maslow's hierarchy of needs
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow_hierarchy_of_needs